Bad
Company
By
Nilesh Gore
Here we will
come to know who are the most responsible person to make
your child an addicted person & failure.
In general we
see kids who are addicted of tobacco , drinking,
smoking, etc. addictions are the symbols of unhealthy
personality.
Kids adopts
addictions because of a] Stress, B] Depression. C]
repression. (form anything) When a kid feels one of
these or similar of these he wants to come out form the
situations. In many countries – drinking and smoking are
the accepted norms of getting happiness.
At first when
a kid smoke or drink - he does not get any pleasant
experience / relief / happiness. But peoples around him
makes him feel so. Over a period of a time he develops &
adopts the habit / addiction.
In a survey
it is found that kids gives similar expressions on the
question “why you smoke / drink etc.?” or ”what and how
you feel after / while drinking or smoking ? “
These
expressions are a] I get mental peace, b] I feel more
confident and aggressive, c] it is good for my tummy &
helps in latrine, d] It is full of pride & sign of
growing man e] it removes the loneliness, anger,
depression. But this is all away form fact & just a
self-deceit.
In the
parental aspect when the parents came to know about
their kid’s addictions / bad habits ; the (99.9% normal
reaction ) parents says “ (1) He has bad Company”,
“(2)He has bad friends” etc. But in reality it fiction
and fact is different. Yes, Fact is different.
Form the
beginning / since your child born he has only company
and that is you, The parent. He / she got your company
for very first day.
Not getting
the good company form parents is the main reason to
raise new problems in the life of a kid.
Confidence
and every thing which requires in social life : he gets
it form the home (your company).
But what
Exactly happens by which they get mentally imbalanced &
cause addiction / bad habits ? well, the reasons are.
- Being
our self (parents) indiscipline & teaching /
imposing discipline to kids
- Pressure
to follow the rules, and discouragement.
- Our self
(parents) addicted and not giving sufficient time to
the kids
- Not
allowing kids to express emotions & needs. Not
understanding the kids
- Not
giving love & affection at the expectation level of
kids
- Improper
/ Imbalanced mutual understanding and difference of
opinion among parents.
-
Economical problems in family and divorce.
These are the
main reasons by which kids gets influenced and affected.
By the nature
of law everybody wants to forget the bad / troubling
events in life and to get relief kids do addiction just
to get so called happiness and he develops inferiority
complex that he has chance to get happy form addiction
(s) (which he never gets).
To do
addictions he requires money and to earn / grab that
money he creates more problems.
Basically in
these kids – confidence level gets low and low, reduces
the success rate, develops the negative thoughts and bad
results are keep on growing.
Any one can
predict the future of such kids( and you also know the
beginning point).
Getting
escape form addiction is very hard thing, easy thing is
to prevent them form addiction before they starts.
We bring them
on the earth so its only parents responsibility & duty
to make child successful by providing right mind & body
needs.
Just like a
kite, a thread helps kite to reach top most place in the
sky ; Similarly we are (thread) in parent-child
relationship. What if you loose / cut the thread…… ?
We have no
rights to raise question and to say my son / daughter
has bad company.
Copyrights :
© Nilesh B Gore.
About The
Author
Name : Nilesh
B Gore
Profession :
Graphologist(Hndwriting Analyst) & SW. Eng.
Email :
ng411002@rediffmail.com
Web :
http://www.brendynamics.com/hw.htm
Country :
India, Ms
Author has
written for the leading newspaper (Sakal) in India - Ms
and his
articles had been published in number of websites.
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